Comments on: Kerfuffle http://outside-the-toybox.com/kerfuffle/2007/11/26/ Anyone else find childhood a little stifling these days? Thu, 09 Sep 2010 10:55:11 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: mom http://outside-the-toybox.com/kerfuffle/2007/11/26/#comment-351 mom Fri, 30 Nov 2007 18:42:22 +0000 http://outside-the-toybox.com/kerfuffle/2007/11/26/#comment-351 ooh - Ellen. Princess as an insult. My dream come true. In my house it's code for any pretty girl/woman. ooh - Ellen. Princess as an insult. My dream come true. In my house it’s code for any pretty girl/woman.

]]> By: Ellen http://outside-the-toybox.com/kerfuffle/2007/11/26/#comment-344 Ellen Fri, 30 Nov 2007 14:23:10 +0000 http://outside-the-toybox.com/kerfuffle/2007/11/26/#comment-344 If my digital camera was working, I would send a picture of the Shrek Chia pet my daughter received as an early Hanukkah present - rows of dead dry seed on its chalky head - a science experiment, perhaps? We've fought the princess fight by not having the stuff around the house and encouraging friendships with boys as well as girls. Princess-y has become a negative adjective. But the fairy stuff is coming in tidal waves now. Vigilance. If my digital camera was working, I would send a picture of the Shrek Chia pet my daughter received as an early Hanukkah present - rows of dead dry seed on its chalky head - a science experiment, perhaps?
We’ve fought the princess fight by not having the stuff around the house and encouraging friendships with boys as well as girls. Princess-y has become a negative adjective. But the fairy stuff is coming in tidal waves now. Vigilance.

]]> By: jessica http://outside-the-toybox.com/kerfuffle/2007/11/26/#comment-324 jessica Wed, 28 Nov 2007 15:52:47 +0000 http://outside-the-toybox.com/kerfuffle/2007/11/26/#comment-324 congrats on stirring things up! bonus points for using the word kerfluffle! congrats on stirring things up! bonus points for using the word kerfluffle!

]]> By: mom http://outside-the-toybox.com/kerfuffle/2007/11/26/#comment-301 mom Tue, 27 Nov 2007 20:22:15 +0000 http://outside-the-toybox.com/kerfuffle/2007/11/26/#comment-301 Welcome Aphie! Welcome Modesto Kid! So nice to meet new friends - and to see "old ones" (we go back what, like 4 months) like subarctic mama and Lisa. and Aphie - I hope you have grandparents who listen! Please do share your experiences (and Congrats on your new friend!!!) Welcome Aphie! Welcome Modesto Kid! So nice to meet new friends - and to see “old ones” (we go back what, like 4 months) like subarctic mama and Lisa.

and Aphie - I hope you have grandparents who listen! Please do share your experiences (and Congrats on your new friend!!!)

]]> By: Aphie http://outside-the-toybox.com/kerfuffle/2007/11/26/#comment-297 Aphie Tue, 27 Nov 2007 06:48:52 +0000 http://outside-the-toybox.com/kerfuffle/2007/11/26/#comment-297 I came over from bitchphd, and have spent the entire afternoon reading your archives. Wonderful! I'm 14 weeks pregnant with my first and already find myself laying down the law to excited grandparents-to-be re: pink vs blue things. Don't know if I'll be able to maintain the battle against genderising of my child with as much fortitude as you've managed though. I came over from bitchphd, and have spent the entire afternoon reading your archives. Wonderful!
I’m 14 weeks pregnant with my first and already find myself laying down the law to excited grandparents-to-be re: pink vs blue things. Don’t know if I’ll be able to maintain the battle against genderising of my child with as much fortitude as you’ve managed though.

]]> By: subarctic mama http://outside-the-toybox.com/kerfuffle/2007/11/26/#comment-295 subarctic mama Tue, 27 Nov 2007 03:39:09 +0000 http://outside-the-toybox.com/kerfuffle/2007/11/26/#comment-295 I thought I should check in today because I suddenly started getting a bunch of hits from you. It's cool to find the post that explains why. I'm glad people are finding you. Your blog is great. I thought I should check in today because I suddenly started getting a bunch of hits from you. It’s cool to find the post that explains why. I’m glad people are finding you. Your blog is great.

]]> By: The Modesto Kid http://outside-the-toybox.com/kerfuffle/2007/11/26/#comment-291 The Modesto Kid Mon, 26 Nov 2007 17:09:43 +0000 http://outside-the-toybox.com/kerfuffle/2007/11/26/#comment-291 Hi Mom, I found your blog thanks to Eszter's Crooked Timber post and am enjoying it greatly, and recommending it to everyone I know. (Well to a lot of people anyways.) Thanks, interesting stuff! Hi Mom, I found your blog thanks to Eszter’s Crooked Timber post and am enjoying it greatly, and recommending it to everyone I know. (Well to a lot of people anyways.) Thanks, interesting stuff!

]]> By: Lisa @ Corporate Babysitter http://outside-the-toybox.com/kerfuffle/2007/11/26/#comment-290 Lisa @ Corporate Babysitter Mon, 26 Nov 2007 17:08:08 +0000 http://outside-the-toybox.com/kerfuffle/2007/11/26/#comment-290 Good for you for starting a kerfuffle. Plus, you've introduced me to some new blogs. Thanks. Good for you for starting a kerfuffle. Plus, you’ve introduced me to some new blogs. Thanks.

]]> By: mom http://outside-the-toybox.com/kerfuffle/2007/11/26/#comment-287 mom Mon, 26 Nov 2007 14:43:43 +0000 http://outside-the-toybox.com/kerfuffle/2007/11/26/#comment-287 No apologies at all Tina -- are you kidding? You're my hero! What fun! And Eszter, I'm veeery sorry that I misspelled your name -- it's corrected above. My kids both have unique names (here in the US), so I'm generally more attentive to such details. On the CT thread, I concur. As I read, I initially found the thread quite aggravating and even tedious (hmm, not unlike Bush's state of the union addresses), but it develops well as it goes on. An interesting mix of a demand for generalizable empirical evidence on the one hand and anecdotal illustrations on the other. People certainly have strong opinions on the issue. I think in some ways, the nurture side makes people defensive. The nature side is so much easier and more comfortable -- it's out of our hands. Like the idea of meritocracy -- if all this inequality is just the result of differing effort and ability, then social class is fair. If it's the result of a structured system of differences that advantage some and disadvantage others...Ouch - less comfortable. Midodok - so happy that your blog is triving. I'm not surprised; it's a visual treat! Jeremy - I know. I originally picked that name to be average, unremarkable, unmemorable (and ungoogle friendly), but many people have suggested that I freak them out. One person panicked and said she thought their Mom had discovered her blog. No apologies at all Tina — are you kidding? You’re my hero! What fun!

And Eszter, I’m veeery sorry that I misspelled your name — it’s corrected above. My kids both have unique names (here in the US), so I’m generally more attentive to such details.

On the CT thread, I concur. As I read, I initially found the thread quite aggravating and even tedious (hmm, not unlike Bush’s state of the union addresses), but it develops well as it goes on. An interesting mix of a demand for generalizable empirical evidence on the one hand and anecdotal illustrations on the other. People certainly have strong opinions on the issue. I think in some ways, the nurture side makes people defensive. The nature side is so much easier and more comfortable — it’s out of our hands. Like the idea of meritocracy — if all this inequality is just the result of differing effort and ability, then social class is fair. If it’s the result of a structured system of differences that advantage some and disadvantage others…Ouch - less comfortable.

Midodok - so happy that your blog is triving. I’m not surprised; it’s a visual treat!

Jeremy - I know. I originally picked that name to be average, unremarkable, unmemorable (and ungoogle friendly), but many people have suggested that I freak them out. One person panicked and said she thought their Mom had discovered her blog.

]]> By: Tina http://outside-the-toybox.com/kerfuffle/2007/11/26/#comment-284 Tina Mon, 26 Nov 2007 13:52:59 +0000 http://outside-the-toybox.com/kerfuffle/2007/11/26/#comment-284 Sorry to start the kerfuffle, but it's great that people gave some thought to gender socialization along the way. I was just trying to get people to curb their consumerism, so that was a bonus. Sorry to start the kerfuffle, but it’s great that people gave some thought to gender socialization along the way. I was just trying to get people to curb their consumerism, so that was a bonus.

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