outside the (toy) box

Nope, not blogging. That would be very very bad, seeing as how I am diligently writing my book and no longer succumbing to the heaven that is the blogosphere. Sniff.

I drop by only to say that I am still going to this and if anyone else out there is attending and wants to get together, I would love it.  In fact, I’m hoping to have many drinks with some of my favorite people in bloggyland and YOU are also invited. Just send me an email to mom at outside-the-toybox dot com so that I know you are attending!  You’ll know me by my bright yellow coat.

On other fronts, you may remember that I bought my daughter a set of rubber Disney princesses (not a big deal for me, no, not at all) and I thought it worth mentioning that they were a complete flop.  They got exactly zero special adoration when they were opened and have been played with 4 times in 3 months, three of which were games initiated by me. 

We played princess book group, princess soccer game, and princess presidential deabte, complete with voting.  Thing 1 voted for Sleeping Beauty because she liked her committment to raising teacher salaries as a central part of the solution to improving education in America (yes, really).  Ariel was a crummy moderator, but I liked that because it was r e a l i s t i c (remember the “Diamonds or Pearls” question? Gag. barf. snort.).  We used a portable phone for the voting booth - it was perfect, we could waddle their little 3 inch princess behinds right up and push a button.

Those three play sessions were in January. Then, the princesses lay dormant (and all was right in the universe).  Finally, 4 or 5 days ago, the baby found them in the toy bin and he waddled them over to his sister.  You know what she did?  She brought them to me and said, “Can we play that voting game again?” (and the crowd goes wild).

I also am pleased to report that I have had some success with Scholastic, Thing 1’s school is dropping them and Scholastic knows why.  What’s more, I get the impression that the company senses a rising tide of frustration with the commercialism.  So, if you have pent up rage, by all means let your school know and let Scholastic know.  There is critical mass accumulating and if the criticism beccomes great enough that they begin to get shut out of schools, they will have no choice but to respond. 

Not everything is cheery though.  Thing 1 has started categorizing everything that sits still as “boy things” or “girl things,”  she recently described marriage to me as the “man picking the prettiest girl to be his wife,” to which I very calmly replied:

and my wonderful nanny recently told me about a friend who asked her pediatrician what to do because her son kept asking for a stroller.  Not a boy with a stroller!  Someone DO something!

So, you know, I’m still here - living it.  Just like you.  I can’t wait to return –  Till then, please email if you are going to the summit! 

God, how self-absorbed can I be? (very.) 

My concerns with the commercialization of childhood have to do with the damage done to kids by socializing them to be not only consumers, but consumerist, to define themselves and others by what the clothes they wear, the cache of their cell phone, the bag they carry, the gaming system they have, the sneakers they own, and/or their MP3 player, Read the complete Post.

Well, we had the big meeting yesterday and it went fairly well.  Because the teachers in the preschool have Master’s degrees in child development or education and the director has an EDD, I made the mistake of going in ready to talk about solutions/alternatives, but presumed I didn’t really need to “teach” why this is a problem. In fact, I specifically avoided professor mode, since I only study media – they are the experts on Read the complete Post.

In preparation for my upcoming meeting with Thing 1’s preschool about Scholastic, I started sniffing out additional information.  I couldn’t find nearly as much as I would like on preschool commercialism, but then I was magically referred to Rebekah Cohen and voila, paydirt!  Cohen has a Master’s in Child Development from Tufts University (where she specialized in children and media) and formerly worked as a research assistant with Campaign for a Commercial Free Childhood.  Her Master’s research focused on (drumroll) commercialism in preschools.  She now lives and works in San Francisco.  Cohen was gracious enough to let me interview her a few days ago.  Her insights follow:

So, okay, tell us, how bad is commercialism in preschool? Read the complete Post.

Hmmm. I am summoning the powers of teh internets to help me strategize.

My daughter goes to a wonderful, wonderful preschool that impresses me every day. The profoundly qualified and committed teachers, the curriculum, the director, the families - it’s a place that I feel great about. Not only do they provide a rich setting and ample resources for social and intellectual development, they are also very progressive and deal brilliantly with issues of diversity - racial and ethnic, class, gender, ability, family structure etc etc.

The only complaint I have is that they currently Read the complete Post.